In search for the right mentor(s)

A 24 year old kid in a fancy suit is having dinner in the Intercontinental hotel, he’s ready to strike a deal with an uppity but rich potential client. The boy had primed his client and had his hopes set on closing the deal to revive his father’s bleeding business, he is nervous to deliver his final pitch. While the waiter took away the remnants of the chocolate cake the boy picked up his courage and set himself up to win the client’s business. I didn’t win the account that night. I didn’t save or turn around my dad’s company. …

Balancing Goals

Yoga Year Pass I was having breakfast with some friends around Chinese New Year. They were discussing a 50% discount on the year passes at the yoga studio. One of them had just finished a 30 day challenge where she’d participated in 21 classes! I thought that was amazing and couldn’t imagine surviving more than 2 classes a week. Realising how incredible I feel after yoga and eager to get into better mental and physical shape again, I was contemplating the year pass. I knew it would force me to go to the classes instead of giving in to my ‘tiredness’ …

Draw circles and paint your life

In 2014 I had a rough year. Work sucked, love wilted and my family struggled with health issues. Last year I wrote about hard times and how I took back control. No more waiting around for better days or letting others determine my life’s course. I know, I know it’s corny, bear with me for a minute. I want to share with you a fun challenge you can do right now to start changing your mindset. The challenge is an exercise given in the 10-week course better leader, richer life, part of the Wharton University MBA curriculum. It taught me: …

Brutal Honesty and Embracing my Body

I was taking a break from work and hanging out outside my place, getting some ‘fresh air’. They’re filming a movie in my soi (the Thai word for street) and I was curious if any interesting people would pass by my place. You never know!  As I was pacing about and having a chat with one of the neighbors, another neighboring lady comes outside pointing at me, shouting that I have become fat ! Really fat ! As if the first statement wasn’t enough, she repeated herself a few more times, just to be sure she made her point. I …

The Discomfort of Happiness

  I remember quite clearly when it all started. I was discussing the subject of happiness with a friend a few years ago. One of the clichés dropped during the conversation, was ‘Happiness is in your own hands’. My reply at the time was, ‘Unfortunately..’. While the words slipped my mouth, I realized how wrong they sounded and instantaneously knew I was on the wrong track. I never dreamed of material wealth but I always longed for a life wealthy in experiences and interesting encounters. I dreamt of travelling and working together with people from all over the world. Being …

It is not what you do, it is why you do it!

In Start With Why Simon Sinek shared with us what he believed to be a common trait the most influential leaders share. These leaders or visionaries share a gift or a secret that most of us do not fully understand. They Start With Why. They set the stage, communicate a dream and instigate a movement. Don’t believe me? If you have not seen it before then you should take a look at Martin Luther King’s I have a dream speech. The movement starts with a dream he shares to the people. He makes the dream crystal clear and shares it …

Why you should learn from Amanda Palmer

A few weeks ago I wrote an article called “Need Help? Learn how to ask for it”. In this post I told you why you feel vulnerable and sometimes stupid when you ask for help and how valuable it is to learn how to effectively ask for help. I want to pick up on that subject today. I want you to watch a Ted Talk called the Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer. Amanda Palmer is an artist in every sense of the word and she has mastered the art of asking. I was blown away when watching this Ted …

How To Set Yourself Free!

Are you in an airplane ready to jump out of the sky? Are you in a boardroom working on the next innovation that will change the world? Are you at home staring at the faces of your partner and children? Or are you annoyed at your loved one because you just got into a fight or are you feeling down because you’re back at work after a really nice holiday? It’s all about love. Without love, living is just not as beautiful. Loving what you do and living your life with all your heart leads to happiness. It just seems that …

How to change by obeying the forces you want to command

The Philosopher Francis Bacon once wrote, “We must obey the forces we want to command.” I’ve used the quote on multiple occasions and today I want to introduce it to you. The quote is so profound that it can help you shine a light on a complex problem and teach you how to change. It is a singular truth and I use this quote when I need to fit, strengthen, explain and simplify the abstract, and complex reality. Below you will find two examples where I use an interpretation of the quote. The second example helped me change and become more …