In search for the right mentor(s)

A 24 year old kid in a fancy suit is having dinner in the Intercontinental hotel, he’s ready to strike a deal with an uppity but rich potential client. The boy had primed his client and had his hopes set on closing the deal to revive his father’s bleeding business, he is nervous to deliver his final pitch. While the waiter took away the remnants of the chocolate cake the boy picked up his courage and set himself up to win the client’s business. I didn’t win the account that night. I didn’t save or turn around my dad’s company. …

Draw circles and paint your life

In 2014 I had a rough year. Work sucked, love wilted and my family struggled with health issues. Last year I wrote about hard times and how I took back control. No more waiting around for better days or letting others determine my life’s course. I know, I know it’s corny, bear with me for a minute. I want to share with you a fun challenge you can do right now to start changing your mindset. The challenge is an exercise given in the 10-week course better leader, richer life, part of the Wharton University MBA curriculum. It taught me: …

The Discomfort of Happiness

  I remember quite clearly when it all started. I was discussing the subject of happiness with a friend a few years ago. One of the clichés dropped during the conversation, was ‘Happiness is in your own hands’. My reply at the time was, ‘Unfortunately..’. While the words slipped my mouth, I realized how wrong they sounded and instantaneously knew I was on the wrong track. I never dreamed of material wealth but I always longed for a life wealthy in experiences and interesting encounters. I dreamt of travelling and working together with people from all over the world. Being …

It is not what you do, it is why you do it!

In Start With Why Simon Sinek shared with us what he believed to be a common trait the most influential leaders share. These leaders or visionaries share a gift or a secret that most of us do not fully understand. They Start With Why. They set the stage, communicate a dream and instigate a movement. Don’t believe me? If you have not seen it before then you should take a look at Martin Luther King’s I have a dream speech. The movement starts with a dream he shares to the people. He makes the dream crystal clear and shares it …

Why you should learn from Amanda Palmer

A few weeks ago I wrote an article called “Need Help? Learn how to ask for it”. In this post I told you why you feel vulnerable and sometimes stupid when you ask for help and how valuable it is to learn how to effectively ask for help. I want to pick up on that subject today. I want you to watch a Ted Talk called the Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer. Amanda Palmer is an artist in every sense of the word and she has mastered the art of asking. I was blown away when watching this Ted …

How to change by obeying the forces you want to command

The Philosopher Francis Bacon once wrote, “We must obey the forces we want to command.” I’ve used the quote on multiple occasions and today I want to introduce it to you. The quote is so profound that it can help you shine a light on a complex problem and teach you how to change. It is a singular truth and I use this quote when I need to fit, strengthen, explain and simplify the abstract, and complex reality. Below you will find two examples where I use an interpretation of the quote. The second example helped me change and become more …